Thanks for your feedback you are absolutely right. My H does not like confrontation or conflict. Not that any of us do, but h actually will AVOID it instead of talk about it. Avoid and ingore. I always use to push - push - push. Not anymore - not the new me. I'm learning when the appropriate time is to bring things up or not bring them up at all.
Who knows Maybe H read a part I had open and it hit home and made him feel guilty. Oh well.
I really do like your validation approach. I will work on that, I think that would have been a great response and it is non-threatening which would be a great approach.
Thank you.
Maybe if I get a chance to bring it up I will mention to him your
quote: ---------------------------------------- ("I can understand why you'd think that.")
and add your boundary ("It may not totally reflect what's happened here, but there are things in it I find it helpful to read. It's what I need for myself right now.")
----------------------------------
Because that is definitely the truth these books do help me and without them I would not have made any positive changes in me.
