I think you are right I do not want our family to know because of how they could treat H as we work thru all of this.
I think you are right in regards to why I felt shakey - it was a form of confrontation when I asked for my H.
I'm just going to keep plugging away at all this and in trying to keep a PMA.
I did buy a new CD set yesterday called "His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage". Have you or has anyone of heard of this one? If so, was it any good? I was also thinking of buying "change your life and everyone in it" by Michelle. Any input on that one?
Also, one more question - this is a little lengthy. Last night H and Son and I went to a baseball game. It was about a 1 1/2 hours from our house so lots of time for conversation. H and I were talking about his companies upcoming golf outting. My group only has a 3-some but we have a potential girl friend who is checking on day care - so we may have 4. Anyway all along I have wondered if OW was going to be on H's team. You see it is suppose to be employees only (and in his case his team is employees only). I'm in the outting because the owner's wife and I are related, so she always puts together a team and I have been on it in the past. Anyway H and I were talking and I asked if the company closes for the day because of the outting. He misunderstood and thought I ment his location only and said yes because we are all golfing but 2 people.
H says - pretty much because everyone in my location excecpt 2 people are golfing. Me - I said is Joe on your team H - yes and so is Jerry and tom (so I did not need to aks if she was on his team - good she is not) H - maybe OW could be your 4th Me - I don't think so, if that is the case I think I would stay back, plus we think we have a 4th H - I was just kidding Me - oh, ok... (I'm thinking ha ha - yah right real funny) That was the end of that conversation and we went on to talk about other things.
But why would he bring her name up and even suggest that? he knows I hate her. I also have been trying to do the right db'ing by not brining her name up or the EA situation.
Why would he bring up her name? He says he was kidding... What does this say? Is he trying to get back to normality by being able to talk about people (such as her) he works with? did he just want to see my reaction? is this sign that he feels he can bring her name up because there is nothing going on anymore?
