Great about calling H's work and asking for YOUR HUSBAND
The shaking feeling you had probably was because you were confronting OW in a sense.... Asking for your H has alot of meaning. I remember the first time after the EA that my H called me his wife in front of ppl. Nice feeling.
In my stich - at the begining and during part of the EA - I didn't have any friends to talk to. I hadn't found this board yet. It was soooo difficult trying to work through it alone. So I told my family ....everything. Now that we are back together - it's at the least uncomfortable and most time very difficult around them. I don't think my little brother will ever talk to him again. I wish I hadn't told them all the gory details - just that we were having problems.
I have a follow db friend now that lives close by - we talk all the time. I met her through this board. That has worked really well for me.
But I don't think not talking about it at all is the best way to work through it - talk here or with a friend.
During the EA my H was mainly talking with a couple male co-workers. One was single the other in the process of a D !!
My H got in contact with a very close male friend that he had lost touch with. This friend knows me very well too. We've all known each other for 8 years. I think it helped him to have someone to talk with. It helped him see reality instead of the fantasy world he was living in.
In my stich it helped that both of us had someone to talk to.
