Thank you! You are right I have the hurt I need to work thru and I never thought of it this way - you are absolutely right, he has the guilt he has to work thru. Which I'm sure it also very hard. I really appreciate your insight.
Sometimes I think I would like revenge against her - like having her fired. My H is in a position where he could have her fired, but I have not gone there. I dont think that would really be productive and I don't even like to bring her up.
I will focus on the good times we are having which really helps me to stay positive. I will work thru the hurt on my own. Do you know of any good books on that type of a subject? Are there any other ways you are working thru the hurt?
Also, sounds like things are still going well for you. This is great!
