I'm happy to hear all the positives in your stich. Your DBing efforts are really paying off.
Quote: - I still have hurt I'm working thru.
Your right. It is something that you need to work through. I came to realize that it is MY hurt, forgiveness, etc that I have to work through. For me there is really nothing that my H could say or do that would explain or justify his actions in his EA. That is something that I will have to come to terms with on my own. Just like his guilt is something that he will need to work through.
Really can you think of one thing that your H could do that would make all the hurt and pain go away - that would justify how much he hurt you .... ? I can't in my stich.
It's not the one thing - its all the little everyday things you do together now that will help heal wounds. In my stich it helps to focus on the great times my H are having now ...
My H never did (at least from what I know) tell OW to stop calling him. I believe she does still - in fact I think that even though she works at a different clinic - she still brings her pet to my H.
