I snooped again and listend to H's voice mails from today. He had is cell off all day, and she did call at 5:00. It was "hi it's me just calling to say Hi I will talk to you later bye" It was not as upbeat as previous messages almost sounded a little upset. Well good I sure hope she is upset. I also know I should not snoop, but it does make me feel good to know he has the phone off. My therapist said maybe this is the way H is dealing with OW, tyring to ignore and hope she will go away. I guess only time will tell. I would like H to tell her to go away. Since we have doing so well or so it seems, is now the time to ask him to ask her to quit calling. Or should I continue to ignore for awhile longer? I also wish she knew I knew she was calling, but I will not confront her I know that is the wrong thing to do. It is just hard for me to know she just keeps calling. The messages never say anything about an A or EA, but I think she wants one and I think they may have had a EA. I do think H is trying to walk away, but I also think he does not want to be mean to her because they work together. Anyone have any experience like this? Is now the time to ask him to tell her to stop? I would like him to do this in front of me. How do I approach this with him without rocking the boat. Again we had another great weekend together and with our kids and friends. Help please.
