Had a good ngiht last night. H was out of town for work. Went swimming with the kids and ordered pizza. It was very nice. I also found time to ride the bike and work ont he weight machine - felt great! H did call a couple of times and checked in. I only called H once when it was bedtime for the kids so they could say good night. H called once around 7pm and says "you know I been going to plan another get away for us and I'm here at dinner talking with a co-worker so and so (male). I could hear so and so him in the background, so I know it was true. And he says we can use their condo down south for a weekend. He says just check on flights and then we can email him some potential dates. Ok so all this sounds good. I was very up beat and said sounds great. I know I need to just go with with this but then I wonder did he call her last night? I know I need to STOP. But, when will I feel we can talk about this sitch and put it behind us, when will I know this is over and in the past? Does anyone have any pointers about how I will know? Is there a point in time when I will know it is ok to bring the subject up. I would just like to talk about it in a little detail to put it behind me. I do have a therapy session today so I will bring it up. But, I'm beginning to wonder if I have a good therapist. I like him, but it seems he just listens, I don't get a lot of suggestions. Should I be getting suggestions?