How can I tell if there is or was an EA going on with H and secretary? If H is trying to cut it off, how will I know? Should I ask H, if so when is the time right? I have read the DB books, and did 3 sessions on the DB coach, but this was earlier this year. I was in bad shape so I never asked the coach how I would know or when I could ask? I did reread this weekend, which helped me but I'm unsure as to when to understand if it is over or when I can ask questions. I was starting to slip by back by starting to call him alot again, etc. But rereading this weekend helped me imagine the "STOP sign", etc. Any advice would be appreciated. Also, both H and I are seeing separtate counselors. H says he is not having an EA with secretaty, but I've seen the phone bills, although minutes are going down. H brought this up after he had a therapy session, so they must have talked about it...
