Okay I get the act as if and showing H that I trust him aspect but would it be a good thing to show him that I don't care whether he messes around or not?
I ask because I grapple with this issue constantly. What message do I send to H. H is always pushing my buttons with this issue. I think its a little mean and insensitive of him but there it is.
I find that we get along better if I jsut make like its no big deal. H has said in past that I make everything a problem and that this was cause of our problems.
I agree that I over analyse things to death. Need to stop doing that. I don't know how. THink GAL may help.
I am really looking forward to the time on my own to organise the house, spend time with friends, shop, veg out. Get a fantastic new hair do.
Journalling- I called H a few minutes ago. He had gone to court with his mom. She sued someone over damages etc. Anyway the matter has been dragging on for 4 years.
I called to find out how things had gone as I did not want H to think I was uncaring about it. When I called we spoke for a little while then H kind of rushed me off the phone.
I was a little upset then I realised that H must be busy and that he at least took the time to speak with me and was pleasant.
So instead of calling back and seeking reassurance or asking why he was rushing me off the phone I dealt with it. So small step- actually big 180 for me.
I think I will start listing positives of my day with H like others do so I will focus on those more than on negatives.
One of my original goals was to be more positive with H and more positive generally.So later guys
