You need to drag out your "Act-As-If" skills big time here, gf.
GO to Vegas. Meet him. Have fun. Enjoy the time. And GAL while he's gone. You're already working on that now.
You are over-analyzing things. You have to accept the fact that you can not control H or H's actions. But you can control you and your behavior/actions. You can control what you say and do.
You can do this. Basically you have to SHOW H you don't care whether he messes around or not, that is, if you want to continue DRing. If you don't, then don't and walk now.