Good to hear from you. You know I know I need to GAL but here's the thing. H will often comment that I play a game of one upmanship, that is, once he is out of the house I am out of the house.
In the past I agree I did do that. I would not stay at home. I had this thing about being the "little woman" at home while H was out having a good time with friends and may be there were hot single women there who were not the boring W at home.
I resisted this image as much as possible and was also angry that H did not want to spend time with me as I saw it. Plus I think H wanted me to be home when he got there. Since the bomb dropped i am at home on a Saturday.
H comes home much earlier on a Saturday and will mostly call if he is going elsewhere. One Sunday recently he went to the firing range to practice shooting (he's into stuff like that). I was not too happy but told H that maybe I would go to the beach with a GF or alone (the weather's nice here).
I decided not to go anywhere because I didn't really feel like it and I did not want to continue this one up thing. H came home earlier than I expected, called on his way home and seemed quite happy that I was at home.
When he got home he commented that he had not expected that I would be at home and thought for sure I would have gone off somewhere.
I do sometimes (rarely) go out with GF. Today we had a telephone guy coming in to hook up a high speed internet access. Last night H was saying that the house is a mess and that I am disorganised.
He said that the house is in a state yet I take every opportunity to go out and never say let me stay at home and fix this.
Now I think this was an unfair comment. I had just finished ironing H's shirts for work. I keep the rest of the house quite clean in addition to working a very demanding job.
I do have a clutter problem to which H contributes.
Anyway that is my long story to say that I get conflicting messages from H. Should I GAL or should I stay at home.
