Sage thanks for the insight. I need to not panic when H talks like that and remember that he may feel overwhelmed too.
Martha, I started reading LLs but did not finish. Not exactly sure what my H's LLs are. Think may be AOS and WOA. Mine is definitely WOA and QT.
Something I wanted to Journal. This am H went into his private email and then called me over to help him send it on to his office email. And there in the favourite contacts list was name of an old GF and an email address I did not know.
I did not say anything and just helped H send the email and then went about getting ready for work.
I was of course mentally trying not to ASSUME anything or go into panic mode. H called me over again to read a joke on the email. When I finished reading it he said "X" ie old GF sent it to me.
He went on to explain that it had been there since 2002 and he had kept it cause he thought it was funny. He also said that old GF used to send him jokes and he would not respond. Then he said he used to respond and say it was funny or if he liked it and then stopped doing that.
He also said she emailed last year saying that she was getting married and he had not responded. He explained that he knew I would have seen her name in his favorite contacts and he did not want me panicking and getting upset.
He also said that other email address is his D19 who lives in London and who he communicates with regularly. I was relieved that H would go to such an effort to reassure me as i really was kicking into panic mode.
