You're welcome! And I understand...it's a "forest for the trees" kind of a thing. It's also b/c you are still experiencing a lot of pain and anger over the A, no doubt. I know it's hard to be objective in that kind of situation.
Perhaps if you tried putting you DR hat on and thinking what you might tell another gf, were they in your shoes? Perhaps re-reading DR? Might give you some new insights?
