I posted last night responding to your post but seems it didn't post for some reason. I basically noted how you found 7 things I could have validated and I couldn't find one!
The wanting to be right instead of happy thing is me to a T. But I want it to be the old me and not the new me. It is a struggle but now I try to step back and see the bigger picture.
I think I need to treat H with more compassion and kindness. I came on the BB and did a search for "how to validate". I found a lot of interesting information. I really was not sure what it meant before this.
So thanks for the focus. I will certainly be trying this 180. Will let you and other DBers know how it goes.
Yesterday H was really cold with me. But last night he gave me a really passionate kiss, we cuddled and he initiated ML . (Is that too much information?)
This am H invited me to go walking with him. Last night I promised myself that I will not do the "I will D you if this happens again" dance. I think I have made that pretty clear to H.
. (Is that too much information?)
