First of all, welcome to the BB. You came to the right place. May I suggest you start in the Newcomers forum? You'll get a lot more attention over there, and a feedback from old-timers as well as from people who are going through this crazy process at the same time as you.
One thing "we" always ask of Newcomers is to define your short-term as as well as your long-term goals. Another thing is to accept that what we do here is change ourselves, since that's the only thing we can change. You'll be asked time and again to change yourself, even when you feel that you're the aggrieved party. It's really hard, but we're all still standing!
Read some threads before you get going, so you get a sense of what the process is. Have you read Divorce Remedy? Another must.
You'll find some of the most understanding and supportive people you'll ever meet here on this BB. It's a godsend for most, and an enormous resource for effecting change in your own life so that you can get what you want from your M.
