You are sure trying everything you can to be patient. I would have a real problem with the fact he keeps running after OW and Kids. Is there nobody else that can take care of the kids? Grandparents or something? Maybe you have to do the final last last resort tech.
Good Luck Jak466
Jak466
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I just read your thread today. It sounds as if you are doing a good job dbing. Dealing with PTS makes your sitch a little harder. I wouldn't go for any LTRs just yet. It sounds as if H is making good progress, as best as he can with where he is mentally right now. Your efforts will start to pay off, it just requires some faith and patience. Ok, alot of faith and patience!
OW does not sound like a threat at all. I wish my H's OW would screw up that badly. I wouldn't look at you H looking after her kids as totally bad or inappropriate. In some ways, it shows that your H is still connecting emotionally to others. I would acknowledge his concern for the kids while ignoring what OW is doing.
Focus all of your attention on dbing well and changing things for you for the better.
Feel free to check out my thread. It's called help with depressed spouse. My H had a breakdown last fall that lead to our separation and we've been working on our M ever since. I might be able to help out with resources for depression and such.
I have decided I am done. Several conversations H and I have had, and several things he has said/done/not done led me to this, finally.
1. H is not happy. At all. And he is making no move to change things. 2. H is continually making plans for him and exOW's kids, and never including me and our kids. Right now he's looking for a house for them. Never once mentioned us moving down there. 3. I am looking for a nannying job. I homeschool my kids, so I have to find something I can bring them along to. I tell H about one I think I might have and how much I'd be getting paid, then he says "oh, then I wont have to send you money anymore". *blank stare* I get mad and tell him I have bills and kids to support. He yells that I don't even pay rent. So I yell back, asking how the hell long he thinks I can continue to live in my parents' basement. AHHHHH! 4. I just don't have the desire to do it anymore. H and I are opposites. PTSD and our past aside, I really don't believe he can ever be what I want. And I don't want to spend any more time waiting around to find out. I can't take one more instance of being made to feel wrong or guilty for being who I am. 5. I am not happy. I want to start to live again. I know I can do that without divorcing him, but I honestly want to divorce him now.
