I am reading this book reccomended to me by a vet who now counsels other vets.. It's called _Vietnam Wives_ and it's about what the wives of these vets had to go through, and what the vets themselves went through, and are still going through. It's amazing reading. And I had a realization which gave me some hope - although H does have a lot of issues, he seems to realize some of them. Several times after I have hugged him, when he'd pull away he'd apologize and tell me that affection is hard for him. And he told me he has anger issues.. I am so glad that he is/was able to voice that to me.. Instead of just pulling away from my hug, or shutting down. This gives me a lot of hope..
The kids and I are driving down to see him next weekend for Father's day.. This will be our first time down there, first time meeting all his friends and stuff.. Fun, fun. I am debating what type of card to get him. I don't want to go overboard and get him a super romantic mushy card, but I don't want something too un-romantic, either. I might end up making my own. I have a tendency to not know when enough is enough and I could write him things and make him cards all day long. And I don't think that helps anything.. I need to read LL and find out what his are.
