FF, glad to hear from you and so sorry things aren't improving. You wrote
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Like I've said before, I can't afford this place myself


What is the separation/divorce/alimony/custody sitch like in Finland? Would he be asked to pay alimony so you can stay in the house? If you document his abusiveness, would that make the courts tip the tables in your favor financially?

Are there any signs of spring yet?