Hiya Deb! Just catching up on your life. Sounds like things are finally starting to shape up. I'm so happy for you.
Listen, I wanted to chime in and say that OW sounds like a complete psychopath with respect to her sexuality. I consider myself to be HD but I am not a weirdo. I don't operate like a dang black widow spider.
I just wanted to throw that out there. I was worried that you are comparing yourself to her--well she sounds like she is quite unbalanced.
Continue to enjoy your time with H and focus on yourself. That is the "strategy" he is referring to. What an inspiration you are!