Hi dfb...I keep thinking that, as you say, a large part of H's problem has to be emotional. He is also exhausted a lot lately, which I think is probably emotional, but that would impact the issues with sex. now, weirdly, on Saturday morning this weekend, H woke up, put his arms around me, said "I love waking up next to you", initiated sex, and had NO problems of anykind....hmmmmm....
I appreciate your suggestion about being tested for std's...I was tested for every thing in the book about 16 months ago...was blessed to come up "clean" for the most part, except for HPV (which is bad, yes) and a thing called Gardenila (sp?...I think)....I have to go back to the Dr. 2nd week in July for followup testing. I was when I heard the stories of her that we're both lucky it wasnt a lot, lot worse. The woman amazes me.....I guess I'm kind old fashioned, ok, no guessing, I am, but I dont think I'm too awfully inhibited. Her "stuff" just leaves me speechless....
I'm planning to work on the kegels, anyway, because my Dr's always after me anyway to be doing that, so......something I need to add to my "must do" list.
I just hope and pray that, as you say, he "stays away from her this time"....
