Last night was really weird...talking continued, don't know if it's good or bad, I feel better at the time, like I gain some insight, but then I don't know. I mentioned ow following me at lunch to H, and then again the flood gates opened. Some of it's kinda scary, but I guess I certainly need to know it. She's every bit as bad and in fact much worse than I imagined. so: she followed me down the street when I left for lunch, I thought it had to be purposeful, as she was just coming out the door when I was leaving the parking lot, so she had to hurry and get in her vehicle and get behind me even though there wasnt a lot of traffic. I know it shouldnt bother me, but it irritated me, and my stomach was upset the rest of the day. When H got home, we were talking just about stuff. I dont know if I seemed clingy or what steered the talk that direction, but somehow I mentioned she did that.... and he said "I'd be careful, the bitch might just hit you from behind and push you out into traffic"...kinda got my attention.
I told him then about the parking next to me stuff that's been going on for what, a couple of months now, and that I cant help but see that as an aggessive move...he said it very well could be, that at christmas she had talked about putting a dildo on her dash board and parking next to me, because I had pitched a fit about their christmas trip and ruined her christmas, and she had been trying to get him to leave and he refused to do it at christmas.
OK, so, now does her parking next to me with the yellow teddy bear on her dash kinda ring a bell??????? I asked him again this morning if he thought it was deliberate, and he said it wouldnt surprise him, but she's also lazy and just doesnt like to walk. I asked him how dangerous he thinks she really is, and he said "not very, I think she's really afraid of you because I've told her you could kick her ass"...last night he did tell me I should watch my back.
This morning I got an email from him saying he hoped I didnt have any parking problems...and then another one saying he was glad I didnt. So he must have told her to knock it off.
But at christmas she still had her hooks in him deep. And later. He told me last night or this AM that it didnt really break down until around the first of May. which is about the time I told him "either or".
We were actually joking about her last night, and I felt better about the whole mess, but then today it's harder when I'm at work, although I havent seen her.
other parts of the conversation....she is still on corrective action here at work; her supervisor and all the business office and coworkers hate her because she is so rude and hateful. She is jealous of H walking with a female coworker who works in the out-of-town office. Maybe I should be, but really am not. Her supervisor, h believes, is looking for anyway to get rid of her. ow emails him constantly about clients/med log stuff, saying "we have to work together on this"...he said (I hope I can believe him) he doesnt respond to most of them, and the ones he does he cc's to her supervisor....and she commented to him that now her supervisor is getting a copy of everything.
H said he doesnt see her anymore at work for the most part since he told her he didnt want to see her face, that she used to strut and parade in the hall outside his office door. he said he looks at her with such disgust when he can't avoid seeing her that other people have noticed, the walking co-worker said "wow, you must not like her" and he replied "that's about it" loud enough for her to hear.
now about ow: incredible. What the hell is he doing with someone like that? I will make certain S has NO contact with her no matter what happens.
OK, lets see, where to start...in college, she had a guy hold a gun to her head he was so angry with her; lived with a guy during the week, and then on the weekends saw the guy she married; lived with 2 drug dealers; ummm, lets see, got involved with a recovered alcoholic and he went back to drinking again; I'm not sure if it's the same person or not, but she was involved with the director of some type of psychiatric/drug abuse facility the state she came from, he went to alcohol treatment himself, came back, purged the place, and she got fired. Another place she worked in in that state, she evidently turned in for medicare fraud and got the whole place shut down (which may not be bad in itself) ok, now here it really gets good.....evidently she started turning in complaints of fraud to medicare here, enough to trigger an audit/investigation, which turned up nothing....so then she got into the computer program used for billing/etc., and was copying and downloading files to send to them to try to provide more information. She couldnt get whatever it was, but when she tried to do it once, her computer disk had been disabled and said "you cannot access this drive (something like that) without your supervisors authorization".... H said last night he can't imagine that she won't be moving on, she has never stayed anywhere very long...and he believes they are looking for every excuse to fire her butt still.
last night, we had sex, and he had no trouble...and in fact seemed to enjoy himself. go figure that one.
This morning I was thinking still about her damn parking place habits, and said something about it again...he got kind of impatient, which I can understand, said it didnt help him to talk about it every morning, that what he is working toward is apathy..."after all, that's the opposite of love". I told him "that works for me" and let it drop and walked off.
I did say something in an email today about wanting things to be "good" with us....his response was "please stop worrying so much, we'll get there"....
Oh, yeah, he even said I should give her cold dirty looks like she give other people, or put a card on her car the next time she parks next to me that says "the best woman did win, bitch!" (said the last word with emphasis); or ...and I loved this one: I should put a Dildo on my dash board, along with a card saying "Hey D, this one's for you!" in big letters, and then park next to her. What a crowd that would draw...I had to laugh. Suggested I should provoke her into taking a swing at me, then "blacken both her eyes and put her teeth down her throat" I have to admit I've considered the 1st swing thing, because that would get her out of here.
This morning he said he thought the best thing to do now was to just let everything quiet down, that any "poking" will make things worse/more trouble.
h commented that "I just want to forget and move on"....
