Hi Deb, I can't be sure what to think about your H telling you so many things about the A and OW ??? My H refused to talk about it all! I do know that the fact that you are really "listening" is a very good thing that your H is definitely seeing. I (also) believe you are wise not to say anything negative in regards to all your H is relaying to you. As hard as it is to swallow, please know that it is VERY common for the offending spouse to not "see" how all of what they have done has damaged/hurt others involved. My H did not ever address "me" and how it made "me" feel .. until almost two years later ... ??
I may be naive, but I guess I have never ever heard of too much lubrication .. ? In several of my trips to Barnes and Noble, I tried to educate myself in this area .. trying new things, etc.. "How To Come On To Your Lover", etc.. ? Anything to try to "spice things up"! Have you ever heard of kegel exercises? They can(and DO!) do wonders for your personal AND your H's satisfaction ...
Continue concentrating on yourself Deb .. take your eyes off of OW!! Keep on "morphing" into the best Deb you can be! It may take time, but I have no doubt that your H WILL eventually see all of the wonderful "you" and wonder what the heck he was thinking of!!
