another "oh yeah" that hit me....some of you might remember when I agonized in the past about workshops H was going to, or rather that I had a "gut" feeling he said he was going to but were really a disguised day out w/ow????? I know there were some in August, some other times as well....anyway, I'm 99.9% sure I was right....besides his "workshop underwear", I'm sure the visited some of the museums he was referring to last night then....I remember so distinctly a huge question mark in my mind when he got home from one "workshop" and talked about how he'd been down by the house where D lived in college (1 block off campus) and stuff that made no sense, because his workshop had supposedly been miles across the town from that. just another one of the weird little "does not compute" brain niggles that is still stuck there.....but I'm sure it was right. I didnt ask because at this point it doesnt make any difference, so there's no sense in revisiting it.