Deb,

I am glad that some of my questions provoked some thought. I hope that you found that to be valuable.

Only you can decide how the piecing thing is progressing in your M.

When I came back to visit the board I was sad but not surprised that your H and OW saga was still continuing and that they were in yet another break up situation. But it did throw me a little to see history repeating itself, and you repeating many of the same things that you were saying months ago.

I know it's hard when you look at something every day under the microscope and someone else comes in with the panoramic camera.

I do understand your GAL points, but I think that the GAL idea was never to run away from home doing stuff w/o H all the time but to find the balance. GAL to become the woman you always wanted to be, always knew you were. Not necessarily to make your H miss you, but so that you found yourself.

For me GAL has meant finding myself so that I actually had a satisfying life of my own beyond my life with H. My R with my kids is better and stronger than ever. I have developed new frienships, honed old talents, and thrown caution to the wind. (at least as much as possible for someone like me ) I know esp. that my female friendships are really really important for me.

GAL has given me the footings that will see me into my "next life" - a life that looks to be one w/o H.

I always always always wish you well on your journey. Know that for sure.

love,
Pam