Yes I have read the books and back in January. I think I need to get them out and reread some sections. I think that is why things seemed to be improving. But, I have forgotten some of the concepts. For awhile I was not snooping. But, sometimes it just drives me crazy - I wan to know what is going on. I often feel I can't call him at work. Now he says call anytime, but what aggravates me is she is the receptionist and she answeres the phone, so I feel uncomfortable. I feel like she is laughing at me - thinking what a fool. But, then I think he has never moved out, granted Jan. and Feb. were bad and he had a lot of hotel nights. But since the end of Feb. he has been home everynight, he doesn't go out at night unless we are with the kids, it's just us, or we are with friends. I just am so confused. I think of things he says - like I'm here for the long haul. I love you and only you. But, then why would he talk to her? He told me he is just starting pushing her into voice mail and he will not call back unless it is work related. I have a hard time beleiving that - will I ever trust him again? ANd he has said things have been so good lately, he thinks I should just trust again. He wonders if this will always be an issue between us. I'm thinking until the phone calls stop it will be an issue. Other things he has done - he planned a nice 3 day weekend for our anniversary a month ago we had a great time. He is planning an upcoming weekend for us - so he says but it is sure taking him sometime - a couple weeks to be exact. But, in fairness he does have a lot going on a work and says he is waiting to determine where we will go based on his upcoming work travels. He thought maybe I could accompany him on a trip for work and we could extend into the weekend. he also has been doing alot around our house, alot of yard work and landscaping. So I don't know - I think there are good signs but maybe it is a EA. Or do you think maybe he is trying to make to make it work with me, but she wants him and he is just flattered so he wont tell OW to quit calling. I just need to move on and get a grip I know that but I also want my family to be happy. Any more suggestions I do greatly appreciate them.
