I notice you keep bringing up religion. Let me ask you this...is your W as religious as you are? Is she religious at all?
I'm not coming down on you believe it or not...but here's my reasoning for asking. My H is religious (although not devout....he doesn't attend church every weekend, but he has his beliefs). I'm not so religous.....in fact I have a VERY different way of looking at things than my H does. I question many many things.....but my H and I accept each other for who we are and the beliefs we each have, in fact we have some wonderful conversations because of our different perspectives.
Now, lets say my H came to me and said something similar to...."in order to be a good Christian (or whatever religion you choose) wife you have to do xyz"....or a "good Christian wife does xyz for her H". I'd be likely to say...that's nice, but I don't fully buy into that because much has changed in the world and in society since that was written.
Now, I'm not trying to be blasphemous (sp?) or anything....just trying to point out that, just because YOU buy into something....doesn't mean she's going to have the same take on it as you. She may be nothing like me, but I know for me anyway, I'm a woman with a mind of my own....I'm not likely to want to be told (which quoting books & religion sounds like being told to me) how I'm supposed to behave in my M. I want to hear my H tell me what "HE" wants, not what someone else says I should do.
Did that make sense? Does your W have the same belief system as you?
