Are some of us living the battered spouse syndrome

[LostGal]

*blush* nah Lou, I'm not being physically badgered. My 'shrink' has more than once counselled me to leave like most do. I think I have vertically dropped over our "sofa" of all things but such a story!...anyhow H has improved in non intamate things in marriage and I'm trying to find solice in this. I'm trying to heal so I can do the apple pie and get on with a guilt free life. Then something comes up...like taking the lawnmower to the flower bed and I think how thoughtless he is. Then I counter it with had I weeded it, the flowers would have been more obvious, had I staked it...and put the blame on me. Which leads to "CUT THE @)(#$*@)#*$(THING ALL DOWN" Which isn't healing.

I acknowledge, he is not doing anything intentionally malicious, just that he doesn't grasp the problem and I can't be totally empathetic with his ED...his conversations with me indicate that his hapiness in that reguard was totally physical. (I found out that his first wife was frustrated by attentions only once a month and that goes back to his 20's--he claimed he read it somewhere) I doubt I'll ever find out the route to that thinking.