Quote: I started to think, how many of us are stuck " in love" with someone who is really "abusive"?
Not abusive as I see it. It is neglectful or not being able to see the loss the HD spouse feels. It's also the feeling one gets when you know the SO only gave the problem "a lick and a promise" to address the problems.
I know that sometimes "a lick and a promise" response is a way for the SO to cover up her/his feelings of not wanting to get hurt if things don't work out. It is also a timing and direction thing in my case. One S wnts to go one way or at another time or sees little hope in some of the potential solutions.
Write more about why you feel/think it is abuse.
OG Lou. Every story has three sides, mine, yours, and something like the truth.
