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For some HD men like myself, our personalities are COMPLETELY intertwined with our sexuality, they can not be separated. This is what thinking about sex virtually every second of everyday for the last 32 years has done to me. You say you want great conversation. That is great, but it is also VERY LD . For HD men, SEX is the male form of communication. What you might want to do is to read "His Needs/Her Needs". The book identifies the 10 basic needs in marriage. The odds are that if you were to identify your top 5 needs, then cross them off the list, the remaining 5 needs will be your husbands needs.
Your husband likes sex 2-3 times a week or more, this is NORMAL. Heck, I would love to have it everyday. And there are HD women on here that also would like it everyday. Now something I see in many LD women is that they start to focus on the physical act of sex, the mechanics of it. That only scratches the surface of the problem. The real underlying problem is that sex is an emotion and LD women tend to not understand this. HD men can not separate desire from love, they are the SAME thing. Your husband is probably sensing that you don't DESIRE him, therefore your love is missing to him. This is a consept that most LD women have a REAL hard time to understand. My guess is that he wants a lover while you want to be companions or friends. To put it bluntly, your form of the relationship is not DEEP enough for him.
Can people have good relationships without much sex, yes. But WITH great sex, a couple can move that relationship to a much higher level that can ONLY be achieved with great sex (borrowed from Dr. Phil).
But don't take all the blame, it seems to me that your husband needs to work on meeting your needs as well. The big question, do you want to be your husbands lover, or his companion? How are you going to show that you truly WANT him? Men don't want just love, they want to be WANTED(desired)!
