I am sorry if you took my response as being cruel it was not intended that way at all. Yes I did read a few post from about a year ago that was all I was able to locate.I actually found some interesting info in some posting attached to his that I have cut and pasted into my journal. These were not from Tim but in response to other posting . I liked this one in paticular Quote:
I personally see respect, trust, communication, honesty, compassion, tolerance, forgiveness, courage, determination and inegrity for self and for the other as the foundation for a marriage.
But my response was mainly from his new posting And may have been somewhat envious in response. I myself would love to have the underlying connection and togetherness that it projected to me. That is the key to ME. To me it seems he has a good relationship maybe not flawless maybe not 100 percent gratifing but what in life is really. He and his wife obviously have not always had this or he would never have been on this website So they seem to me to have come a long way .(Hence the comment that maybe you have been working on fixing this so long you have not realized it is fixed just flawed) To say I will throw all are hard work away because of something that is not totally lacking but lacking somewhat is hard for me to understand.
The reference to dying alone is probabley jaded. People fight so hard and so much about sex they tear themselves and others that they love apart they put so much emphasis on that one aspect with all types of reasons I need it I want it It is part of the package its love ect. But in truth at some point in your life you are going to get older and either medically or physically chances are that same person that it was the all almighty important thing to is not going to be able to perform this function often or at all. After spending all those years screaming about it. (Sorta ironic God has his ways). So this in mind should the other person walk out say well love ya will miss talking to you but not enough sex from you gotta go. Thats not what you would expect you would expect them to remain with you loving you spending time with you being your partner in life not just bed. Love to me is not sex is not based on sex is not even a large part of the meaning. My wedding vows were not to love honor and have sex. It said charish. Maybe I am projecting my asperations. My wants to have and know I have someone as life goes on will talk to me. Hold my hand and walk through the woods with me. Watch home movies of our kids growing up with me. Stay with me if I do not feel well. And act interested in me not just when we are inbetween the sheets. And yes occassionally have sex with me. This is what I want and maybe a little envious because what I read is this person has this and is not satisfied with that.
