Hey Dodger and Angel thanks for your support guys. I spoke to H before yes I rang him and I promise this is the last time ever not that I do it all that often but the convo went something like this: M: Hi just wanted to speak to you Re: Access arrangement, don't want to argue just want to say what I need to make arrangements and that's it, is that O.K. with you. H: Yeah that's fine. M: O.K I am really disappointed that I have been pushed into having to make these arrangements I always thought you and I would remain friends. Especially when you know that I grew up with parents that didn't speak and how much it affected me all thru my life even on our Wedding day. H: Yes I remember M: Good then you know how hard this is for me but as you are allowing OW to control you and as OW will not let you spend anytime with me around, I feel it will be best for all concerned that you pick son up at 5.45 every Friday night and you tell me a time that you will drop him off on a Saturday and we will stick to that arrangement always. If you can't have him for some reason well you just miss out for that week. For 5 months I have been very understanding of your life and your affair but I am not able to do this anymore when you have chosen her over your son. I will not lie to our son, I will try and soften the blow but he needs to understand how this came about and sadly for him he needs to get used to a routine. I am sorry you don't feel able to stand up to OW but this was your choice and this is the only way I can deal with it all. H: I am not happy with this but I don't see that I can do anything about it as I can see both sides. M: Well OW really shouldn't matter where son is concerned but as she does in your eyes you have made your choice, you are an adult an able to stand up for yourself and if you choose not to stand up to her over your son that is fine you just have to live with your decision. H: I guess so (sounding very dejected) M: I am really sorry H I didn't want this, anyway if you just toot on a Fri in the drive I will send son out and what time will you be bringing him back on a Sat. H: At 12.30 M: O.K. that is fine that's what we will stick to from now on. If you can't have him one Fri just put a note in his backpack and we will miss that week. H: Can't we make other arrangements on those times. M: No I don't think so, I think it is better if you and I don't speak anymore so if we stick to these arrangements we never need to speak or have any contact. That will make things easy for you and OW and that's what you want. H: Well if you think so. M: As I said I am not happy about it but I have to do what I feel is best and that is what I am doing time to move on so I hope you keep well and I will let you go. H: O.K. bye. That was it, I know I sound awful but I have made so many allowances and he needs to understand that he made this decision.....So guys I have just jumped one huge level on that mountain, hey sis give me your hand I will pull you up. Don't get me wrong I am very upset at all this but what can I do????I can be a doormat for ever or I can shake it off and GAL. So I chose GAL. So here I come watch out Anna I might accidentally knock you over as I run past, although I have along way to go and my energy is a bit depleted at the moment. I will stick to my fantasy land and be a child and read the new Harry Potter book and forget my problems. (How childlike is that) I don't care though as I love those stories. S9 loves them too so I think I will sit down and read it to him as it is just a bit too much for him just yet.......DKD
