Thanks BlondeQT1 - I just can't be bothered anymore. I think I will take Yoyo's advice and ignore OW completely. I am not going to ask H how she is nothing. Apparently it's all over with H and OW but how would I know for sure, I wouldn't so therefore I am just going to pretend she doesn't exist and take each day as it comes. I am not contacting H at all and we will see what happens over the next few days. I am sure he will call me tomorrow again with some feeble excuse but if not I will just see him Friday when he picks up S9 and I will make sure I have his stuff ready so they can go straight away.....
Quote: I think I will take Yoyo's advice and ignore OW completely
Finally you are gonna ignore OW. Good on you!!
Yes! You are right, you won't know for sure if it is really the end with the OW. You just have to ACT AS-IF there is no OW. You are happy with your life...you've got a new house!! You've got the world in your hands!! And just wait for H to come eat out of your hands! LOL
Oh Yoyo I hope you are right. I hope he does come crawling back, that would make me very happy indeed. I know we would have a lot of stuff to work out but I would dearly like to try. I guess I got him there once, hopefully I can do it again. Detach is what I am trying to do at the moment and act as if so we will see....
Hey DKD Are you my long lost twin? Are our H's related too? You and i act and react the same and our H's both feed us the same kind of crap and act the exact same. I am here twin sis...to pull you out of the cave, to baby step this mountain together with all the other BGS headed by none other than Anna and followed by DMF or should i say chased by DMF
You gave yourself great advice...so take it i'm going to!
By the way am i older twin or are U? M=36, oh i mean 26, i forgot i go by the age i look... not am=36...but feel during all the H crap-336
Take a hold and walk with me and talk with me..... Angelwings
DKD I just thought of a name for you after reading your post - karmakim= karma is action seen as bringing upon oneself inevitable results, good or bad either in this life or in reincarnation or 2=fate or destiny. sounds great for what's going on to me...when i looked up karma in dictionary...god do i nees to GAL as i'm now using a dictionary again i flipped throught the L's and isn't it strange that loss heads the page and love ends the page so they are beside each other on the top of the page
Let me know what you think i won't be offended Angelwings
Honestly....It will be the best thing for you to stop asking and dealing with the OW...take it from me. I had OW calling me and me calling her....she wanted to make me jealous and help push me and H further apart. Sometimes what you dont know cant hurt you(meaning about OW...how is she...did they talk..etc..)I have had a really hard time with it because she use to work with H and now she is blaming upper management (close family friends of mine) for giving me information about her...I have been in contact with her for over a year...she is just trying to cause problems. I feel for you but I know that we ALWAYS want to know the information but at the same time it doesnt make things any better. Hang in there and I will keep checking in on you...we can kick this OW thing together.
Hey Angel, I am the older one I am 38 soon to be 39, 40 is getting closer and closer, scary really. It's amazing how similair peoples situations are but I agree with you we do seem to react in a similair fashion. I am about to check out BlondQT1 sitch to see how her OW compares to ours, back in a sec.....DKD
O.K. now I am pi$$ed off big time. Here is something I bet you all haven't had. My H just blamed me for ruining his R with OW. O.K. backtrack to yesterday he spoke to me on phone about picking up S9 friday and treated me really offhanded, I asked him why the sudden change in attitude and he said nothings changed I am treating you the same. I said O.K. but I don't feel the same I sense a tension. Anyway we got nowhere so I let it slide and we ended conversation. I then got a call from House agent saying they needed both our signatures on Bond Release Form so I rang H to ask him to meet me at Agents office. He wouldn't speak to me and hung up. I tried again and said I just need to speak to you about Bond, we ended up in a big fight can't be bothered going into it and he hung up on me. So against DBing principles I messaged him and said look don't want to fight hate it can we be civil I really need these papers sign that's all I want. He ended up ringing me last night and we sorted things out and had pleasant convo. Then this morning S9 reminded me he had day off school on Friday and could his dad pick him up tonight. So I ring H and asked and he said that should be alright I will speak to you when I drop into your office. Then about half an hour ago I get call from H saying he will pick up S at 6.30 tonight. I said fine and he said O.K. see ya, I said I thought you were dropping into office to drop my boss's D.V.D's off and he said well things aren't going well 4 me at the moment so I don't want to see you. I said what have I done now and he said if I hadn't spoke to OW then they could have worked things out. (WTF) I said hang on I never rang her she rang me and I didn't say very much, I have not been rude to her, I have told her I don't want her to contact me anymore and as for what goes on between him and her it is none of my concern. He said again well it's your fault and I lost it and said listen I didn't start any of this you did when you left in Feb, if OW is making you hate me and blame me then fine but I am not accepting the blame he then basically told me to f&&k off and hung up. Can you believe this. How is this my fault????? I stopped contact with OW and told her I wanted nothing to do with anything that she and H had to work their own problems out and ringing me for info on what he is or isn't doing with me wasn't helping anyone and she would have to work that out for herself. So I didn't tell her if H and I had ML but apparently when she confronted him with it he admitted it. So that is his problem I think. I just can't believe that I am now to blame for the OW R not working, now he wont be picking up S9 tonight and who knows about tomorrow night and what do I tell S9. Can't very well say dad blames mum for him not having OW. My H can be stupid too, and sometimes will tell the kids more than they need to know. I am really pi$$ed about this....Advice would be good....I think I just ignore it and have no contact with H other than for S9's sake which is what I thought I was doing. I guess if H rings I just say look I don't want to discuss anything else other than S9 make arrangements and send S9 out to him when he turns up. If H doesn't contact me for S9 then I guess I just say he is busy and leave it at that. Why do WAS make it so hard on the kids they have done nothing, S9 didn't ask for this and is having a hard enough time working it all out as it is. Boy I must be so easy for H to blame but then he has nobody else. Guess he is going to be very lonely soon. I am sooooooo mad, I cannot believe I am getting the blame for this. I have been there for him with everything, have given him money when he is struggling, food, smokes etc he never was good at making ends meet it has always been me and what has he ever done for me except cause heartache. Why do we give give give and they just $hit in our faces???????DKD
Oh Kim...Sorry to hear that your H has gone bonkers. I think you should lie low for awhile. Don't contact H. If he contacts you, just limit to S's welfare/visitation etc. If you want to adhere to DBing, do not be hostile, do not be angry. Just go dark for awhile. Talk to you later..got to go. Am at coworker's computer..not very convenient. TAKE CARE!!
