O.K. now I am pi$$ed off big time. Here is something I bet you all haven't had. My H just blamed me for ruining his R with OW. O.K. backtrack to yesterday he spoke to me on phone about picking up S9 friday and treated me really offhanded, I asked him why the sudden change in attitude and he said nothings changed I am treating you the same. I said O.K. but I don't feel the same I sense a tension. Anyway we got nowhere so I let it slide and we ended conversation. I then got a call from House agent saying they needed both our signatures on Bond Release Form so I rang H to ask him to meet me at Agents office. He wouldn't speak to me and hung up. I tried again and said I just need to speak to you about Bond, we ended up in a big fight can't be bothered going into it and he hung up on me. So against DBing principles I messaged him and said look don't want to fight hate it can we be civil I really need these papers sign that's all I want. He ended up ringing me last night and we sorted things out and had pleasant convo. Then this morning S9 reminded me he had day off school on Friday and could his dad pick him up tonight. So I ring H and asked and he said that should be alright I will speak to you when I drop into your office. Then about half an hour ago I get call from H saying he will pick up S at 6.30 tonight. I said fine and he said O.K. see ya, I said I thought you were dropping into office to drop my boss's D.V.D's off and he said well things aren't going well 4 me at the moment so I don't want to see you. I said what have I done now and he said if I hadn't spoke to OW then they could have worked things out. (WTF) I said hang on I never rang her she rang me and I didn't say very much, I have not been rude to her, I have told her I don't want her to contact me anymore and as for what goes on between him and her it is none of my concern. He said again well it's your fault and I lost it and said listen I didn't start any of this you did when you left in Feb, if OW is making you hate me and blame me then fine but I am not accepting the blame he then basically told me to f&&k off and hung up. Can you believe this. How is this my fault????? I stopped contact with OW and told her I wanted nothing to do with anything that she and H had to work their own problems out and ringing me for info on what he is or isn't doing with me wasn't helping anyone and she would have to work that out for herself. So I didn't tell her if H and I had ML but apparently when she confronted him with it he admitted it. So that is his problem I think. I just can't believe that I am now to blame for the OW R not working, now he wont be picking up S9 tonight and who knows about tomorrow night and what do I tell S9. Can't very well say dad blames mum for him not having OW. My H can be stupid too, and sometimes will tell the kids more than they need to know. I am really pi$$ed about this....Advice would be good....I think I just ignore it and have no contact with H other than for S9's sake which is what I thought I was doing. I guess if H rings I just say look I don't want to discuss anything else other than S9 make arrangements and send S9 out to him when he turns up. If H doesn't contact me for S9 then I guess I just say he is busy and leave it at that. Why do WAS make it so hard on the kids they have done nothing, S9 didn't ask for this and is having a hard enough time working it all out as it is. Boy I must be so easy for H to blame but then he has nobody else. Guess he is going to be very lonely soon. I am sooooooo mad, I cannot believe I am getting the blame for this. I have been there for him with everything, have given him money when he is struggling, food, smokes etc he never was good at making ends meet it has always been me and what has he ever done for me except cause heartache. Why do we give give give and they just $hit in our faces???????DKD
