Hi Guys well now for the update from hell......As I said earlier OW was messaging etc and Thursday night I tried to speak to H about my moving and what time he was going to be there and no he had no time for me because of his dramas with OW. Friday morning he turned up to help with the big move. I asked how things were with OW and he said not good she is all over the place and can't trust him. I said well you have to work it out. He said she had told him about messages and phone calls and I said yes that is true but she initiated contact and I haven't said very much to her and if he wants to know anything to ask as I have nothing to hide. He said No it's cool I have to just wait and see what happens. So we got on with moving things and then in the afternoon she rang him on his mobile and he disappeared for about 15 mins. When he came back I asked if it was sorted and he said no she is still really upset with him and can't get her head around the fact that he has been cheating on her with me. (Ha) Anyway he was very quiet the rest of the day and took S home with him that night and came back the next day to continue shifting. This went on much like this for the whole weekend. Upshot of it all I think H thinks he is really in love with OW and is very upset that she thinks she doesn't want him anymore. I wish he would feel that devastated over me. I figure that it is for them to sort out and told H I was there for him if he needed me but maybe it was best to keep his R with OW to himself as it doesn't really help anyone me knowing about it and makes things to difficult. I said he needs to live his life and I need to live mine and whatever will be will be. This hurts me no end but I think I have to get back to DBing all the way. Time to go slightly dark and GAL. I spoke to him this morning as he wanted to know how sorting out the unpacking was going and I said not all that great, that I was in a big mess and it would take me awhile to sort through everything but that I would get there with time. I then cut him off and said I would ring him later as I was busy. I won't though he can ring me again if he wants to speak. Time to not think about him and concentrate on getting my new place unpacked and set up and in order. It will take me the next 2 weeks but it will keep me busy. Like NYS says I can only control myself not H so that is what I am going to concentrate on now. I am going to resist H as much as possible. So Anna I am really taking my first step up that mountain. I did some major backsliding on the weekend and now I am ready to get up and get going again for my own sanity. Yes YoYo I am taking your advice and cutting OW out for good. Dear John you made me laugh as she really is like Glenn Close in Fatal Attraction lucky I don't have a white rabbit I can tell you....Anyway guys here is to me DBing properly again...I still want my H but need to GAL first and if he is still there later well so be it....This site really helps in making you kick yourself in the ar$e and get going again so here is my foot up my behind and the start of who knows what.....Kim
