DK and hellkat I have been reading your posts and feel i am in the same spot as you in many ways. My husband left us d7 s5 d3 after almost 10 years in marriage. He says ow makes him feel good about himself, i never did, its easy with her, they just click, he's spent lots of time with her and now has feelings for her and i have been letting all of this go on for 8.5 months now cuz he says i am cold hearted, uncaring, lots of things all the others are saying about their spouses. Everytime i try and its very hard for me, to start down a new path he's able to suck me right back in and gets me where he wants me. Yesterday was my bday, he texts me to say happy bday have a great day and then last night tells me he is is going out with OW. Once again i was crying. What is going dark and how do i do it. Ive read DR a few times done the 3 counselling sessions but he knows that he has me hook line and sinker and i don't know how to make it all stop. I just keep going back to i love him and want this to work. I also feel that because of all the things he has said about me that i feel i have to let him do this to show i do care and love him. Hes turned all this into my fault and even though i know in my mind its not true my heart tells me let him to show that you do care. Do i sound confused?!?! You sound like you can at least get started down a path and see some results i only seem to be able to see the path and then he suckers me right back in. HELP ME with some advice please.
