Hi Guys, Well it is now Monday. On Friday night H rang me to say he wanted to drop in after work (he finished at 10pm) to pick up some paper for S birthday presents. I said O.K. but I may have visitors. He came over and as he knew the visitor's decided to have a chat and hang round. The visitor's left about 11.30 and H stayed and chatted until 1.30am. We were chatting about everything and it was the 1st proper chat in a few weeks. I could tell he was feeling very comfortable and he started making moves and I knew what they meant he wanted to ML. Can you believe that - Hellkat you know what I am talking about I am sure. Anyhow one thing lead to another and we did H afterwards said why did you pressure me about her 2 weeks ago things may have been very different right now if you hadn't. I told him it was something I had to do as in order to fully trust him over all this and to start fresh I needed to know he had got rid of her and for good. I then said when you couldn't handle the pressure and chose her it proved you weren't over her and you probably would have kept us both going. He said he understood but that he was more confused than ever now as he said he can't handle not being involved with me and often wonders if we can sort things out. HERE WE GO AGAIN.... Anyway I said to him "Look I think you need to sort yourself out and your feelings before you can honestly work out which relationship you want. Things have changed with us, I know about her and although I don't think it's great, I accept it but I am not going to take us seriously until he has worked out who he wants to be with. He said that was very fair and he appreciated it. I then said don't get any illusions though if things change for me and I meet someone I will finish our liason's. He said he owed her a bit as she had been very supportive and helped him with money too (never could handle money) I said I don't need to know details, just do what feels right for you and in your own time, if later you feel you want something more with us, see me then as I don't know how I will feel when and if that happens. He rang me 3 times yesterday for crappy reasons and has already rung me at work today. He is taking S away this weekend from Friday morning until Monday night. He is giving me his car for the weekend and wants me to go shopping with him Thursday night to help him choose the food, he is then staying for tea, so OW I am sure won't be impressed especially when she can't see him on Thursday night before he goes. Well that is my latest sitch will keep you updated but guys you are so hard to work out. 2 weeks ago my husband wanted us to be back together then 2 days later he decides he is staying with OW and now he is playing both again. I know I have let him but 12 years of loving someone and you cant just hate them it takes awhile to get them out of your system and he is nowhere near out of mine yet...... Speak soon.....Kimxxx
Can you believe that - Hellkat you know what I am talking about I am sure. Anyhow one thing lead to another and we did 
Anyway I said to him "Look I think you need to sort yourself out and your feelings before you can honestly work out which relationship you want. Things have changed with us, I know about her and although I don't think it's great, I accept it but I am not going to take us seriously until he has worked out who he wants to be with. He said that was very fair and he appreciated it. I then said don't get any illusions though if things change for me and I meet someone I will finish our liason's. He said he owed her a bit as she had been very supportive and helped him with money too (never could handle money) I said I don't need to know details, just do what feels right for you and in your own time, if later you feel you want something more with us, see me then as I don't know how I will feel when and if that happens. He rang me 3 times yesterday for crappy reasons and has already rung me at work today.
