Hello DesperateKim, I haven't posted to you before, but your thread caught my attention.
I'm over at the Midlife Crisis forum. Could it be that your H is going through MLC? He does have the childhood trauma that he maybe is dealing with right now. Midlifers truly cannot take ANY pressure, they run as fast as they can.
You must be devastated learning that your H has decieved you for 3 years. But on the positive side, they say MLC lasts 2-5 years (maybe longer), and if your H has already been "in the tunnel" for years, so maybe he'll be moving out of it some day.
There were so many positive things happening with you and your H. I think it's only a matter of time they start happening again. Next time you'll have to be more patient, and remember, no expectations! He has to be the one making his decisions, not you.
I'm also new at this, so I'm only learning myself. But there are some awesome, wise people on the forum who have been there a lot longer. I'm sure they could give you some great advice!
