Kim - I know the devastation of realising that the A has been going on for the last 3 years. All the deceit and lies ...I could go on. But don't feed your hurt. You will feel terrible. Put a big red STOP sign and look forward. For now, go dark with H. And at the same time, GAL and PMA for yourself, not for H. If H doesn't see the light, it's his loss. If he does..then it's a bonus. Don't go sit by the corner and be miserable...go right out there and have a party!!!
And REMEMBER...do not communicate with the OW. Even if you see her on the roadside, do not acknowledge that you know her. If H brings her up, you need to say something to stop him mentioning the OW to you. OW is his problem, not yours. And you certainly cannot be the "buddy" that helps him to sort out his problem with the OW. My H says that I am his friend and he wants to tell me about his hurt of losing OW. I told him that I could be his friend in other aspects, but I am sorry, I cannot help him in this aspect as I could only think as a wife. So I suggested that any problems relating to the OW, he should go talk to a real friend who could be impartial. From then-on, I have not heard any mention about the OW....unless of some sacarstic remark from moi. (oops...did I say moi?? Must be Anna123's influence!!)
