Quote: Think of him as a street cat that you're trying to get to eat out of your hand. You can't make threatening motions, you can't call out, you can't approach the cat. Instead, you have to sit still with food in your hand and make gentle cooing noises and let the cat come up to you. The cat comes up timidly to check it out, and any aggressive moves on your part will still scare it away. Even when the cat starts to eat out of your hand you have to move slowly and gently.
LOVE that analogy!!! Kim, just stopped in to say hi and thanks for your post. Hang in there sister. It sucks but it will get better one way or another. I know how hard it is. You said I sounded strong. I'll tell you my secret-I'm trying to convince myself of that. My friend Lisa says "Fake it til you feel it". That's all I'm doing. Show H your happy strong face, even if it's an act right now. You can cry, scream, kick the couch, break a plate when he's not around. The other thing that helps is to remember that OW is not a real relationship. They're "in love". Wait until they spend some time together and start to see each other in reality, warts and all. As bad as I don't want H to move I know that the fastest way for him to get over this infatuation and come to his senses is to be with her in real time, screaming kids, bills to pay, pain in the butt ex-husband, being isolated from all things familiar and comfortable. I'm reading "Mama Gena's Marriage Manual". It's supposed to be funny and empowering. I'll let ya know. (((((Kim)))))
