Hey Russ, Thanks for the encouragement. So you agree that OW has to go???? That is not putting to much pressure on him???? I will not put any other demands on him just that before I will attempt at fixing us.....Is this right??? I am so nervous, I am also really worried that he has lead me up the garden path, not that he has said anything to validate this but you know have an affair lie about it, it is hard when nothing has gone my way so far. Anyway we will see tonight I just hope I handle it the right way, this is a real test. Thanks again but remember it is Friday downunder and a public holiday Monday so if I can get on the computer at home (kids hog it) I will let you all know tomorrow but otherwise it will be Tuesday.... Wish me luck.....Kim xxx