YoYo I am going to answer you honestly - yes I did wonder but you know what after last night I dont. I can't go into much detail on this site but he told me things last night that I know I am better than her. I give him different feelings when we are together and he has never experienced that with anyone else before me or with her now so no I think he probably thinks of me when he is with her. As for not pressuring him, I am not going to I thought I would be supportive to the decision he has to make but if he doesn't mention it then I wont for the moment. It will take all my DBing reserve but I am determined not to. I do understand what you mean about the OW being in their head but try not to think about it as it will only make you anxious so for your own sake wonder if you are in his head when he is with her but better still dont think about it if you can. When you catch yourself thinking that way think of something else. I do know what you mean though I actually used to think about them together and literally made myself vomit it bothered me that much and then I learnt I couldn't change it so why worry about it just concentrate on gettin him back and thats what I have tried to do and so far it is not too bad.
