You can not react to the OW, forget the H and move on. I did all the wrong stuff, I even called the OM, in my case and asked him what the hell are you doing with a woman how has two young kids and a husband that wants her? I'm still cleaning up the mess from that, and because of that(she said) we will never get back together.
You have to forget, move on, GAL, have a PMA, and more. ALL THE THINGS I DID NOT DO!!!
You are in a fight for the love of your H. He does not know it or should he, go for at a site called "ASK MEN" I think it is askmen.com. what that site does for me is two fold. Gives me lots of interesting things to discuss, but also has a relationship side that gives advise to men. tells then not to be wusses. Stand on their own. This site could give you some more insight into the single man mind. Notice I said single. Married men act differently, all men were single once and some long for that style of life. here the point..after the get there, some will think about the grass they have left,(you) they will look, find, seek you out. What the see, will have a great effect on what the do. Men are simple, we get up in the morning thinking about three basic things, pee, food, sex. sorry I hope I did not offend you. We need the first to make room for the second, if we are happy and secure in our surrounds, we could be looking for number three. If our surrounding don't look good, some will look elsewhere for these needs.
You have to have the PMA, be strong and confident, as H goes, say you have tryied buy move on.You and H have a history, think of the things you did as you started to date. Could you work that kind of thing into your day?
This is getting too long so I will stop now.
Be strong, write lots. If I missed the mark, sorry. Russ
