I think majority here are living apart from their WASs. For Hs that are still living at home (either sitting on the fence or confused)..think it's me, glj, kaydeekay...not too sure who else. SherryL has her H back in the house after leaving.
I agree that the 2nd Best option thing is kinda hurtful. I did tell my H that I just couldn't accept him going out to live with the OW for awhile, and if it doesnt' work out with her, he return to us. I know it is anti-DBing. But what I think if he can leave me and the boys, and not care about us at all. This is not a man that I want to be married to, and not a man that deserves to be my children's father. So, once he decides to move out...that's the end! (This is very very different from the other DBers who are all very admirable in still keeping the DBing principles to get their WASs back.) I just don't have it in me. But it is really really up to the individual...you'll just have to ascertain what you can and cannot live with.
