Last night I went to our marriage couselor by myself. W said she might go next time.
After talking to the couselor I put off any conversation about being completely honest with each other about the OW. I guess I need to back off and let her sort it out on her own instead of pressuring her to reveal everything, particularly since she sees him on a professional level almost daily. I would be asking her to judge a lot of grey area as far as what she should be telling me.
Still, really difficult not to be anxious about it.
