I want to respond to the debate initiated by Bruce and dejavu but I will once I get caught up at work.
Let me record here something I have noticed which is very DB-relevant. I have, over the past couple of months, done one thing every weekend that amounts to a small change but it has kept the sitch moving in a steady fashion. They are all very small, but they seem to make my WAW notice: 1. Bought new clothes and have been using them. The colors are a bit bolder than I have worn in the past. 2. Bought my D3 some little things that were cute and unusual for me to buy her. 3. Trimmed hedges and made the lawn look good. 4. Upped the cleanliness of the house. 5. Bought a cool cell phone (my WAW thinks of me as set in my ways and somewhat of a curmudgeon). 6. Bought a cool new digital camera that has some nifty features. WAW thinks that I am not much a gadget person, so this is a change for me. 7. Fixed minor repairs around the house in timely fashion. She noticed. 8. Have left "Awakening at midlife" lying around in full view of W. She has been giving it curious glances. 9. Have started wearing work-out clothes when she comes. Have been working out and am better toned recently.
Small things, I am doing one thing every weekend, however small. I have also been asking for slight changes in D3's schedule saying I have this and that to do. Most times I tell her what I have to do but at least it gives her the impression that my life is full. I am going to do this every weekend. Some planned small purchase that makes a slight mark on W's psyche.
This weekend will be : one more house plant.
UD
The 3 laws of DBing:
1. PMA is critical to DBing.
2. Since drop in WAW's PMA leads to drop in LBS's PMA and vice-versa detachment is critical.
3. Validate to raise WAW's PMA and GAL to raise LBS's.
