Hi All:

No D yet. (Recall - Nagasaki was May 22). No sign that WAW is going to file. Keeping fingers crossed.

Things are moving along in my sitch. The physical space has been reduced and has held steady for the past few weeks. Several baby steps in recent days indicate some movement of the tectonic plates but there has been no siginicant upheaval yet and so I am trying to not draw too many conclusions. The baby steps are:
1. WAW came over and I was doing laundry. She folded some of my clothes for me. This has not happened since bomb in '03.
2. WAW regularly makes me tea when I go over to her place to pick up D3. She seems disappointed when I decline.
3. WAW has been looking around the (fomerly our) house (where I now live) and making comments about things. This has not happened for a year.
4. WAW offered to give me a ride to the airport this weekend. Am heading off to Boston for a meeting.
5. D3 said this weekend "I want a baby sister" (go D3, I love daughters) to which WAW said "not right now, D3".
6. Usual Sunday evening pickup time - D3 said "Bye dada, mommy and I are going to play". WAW said "Dada is coming too, D3". I had not inidicated either way. So Sunday evening time together has become the routine now. We went out to our favorite restaurant to eat (I think WAW was missing it) and WAW vented a lot on work and her colleagues and I listened and validated. Things were good.
7. WAW told a mutual friend (who has been firmly on my side for the past couple of years) that she thinks that "this year will be better".

GAL - Have moved into higher gear on training for the marathon. We did 14 miles this weekend. It was hot and humid here and the last two miles were just run in the mind. Chicago marathon is run in cooler weather, so this period of training in the heat should stand us in good stead.

PMA has stayed steadily high. WAW's PMA has been quite good as well. I think that in these two years I have gone from:
Year 1- bumbling, blubbering idiot to
Year 2- slightly unhinged love-lorn imbecile to
Year 3 - self-assured, confident, can-do spirited, validating, empathizing homo sapiens

I am happy where I am. I am filling my time usefully, am managing my own affairs well, have very few needs (hmmm... in most parts of my anatomy that is) and am able to view WAW as the one that is lost and myself in control. If I were to grade myself on my performance through this test in my life, I would have given myself a D for year 1, C for year 2 and a solid B for this starting year 3.

OK, now to address world hunger.....

UD

The 3 laws of DBing: 1. PMA is critical to DBing. 2. Since drop in WAW's PMA leads to drop in LBS's PMA and vice-versa detachment is critical. 3. Validate to raise WAW's PMA and GAL to raise LBS's.