I see the benefits of the book. Thanks for pointing out that role of Jung. I've wondered, tho, about whether there is much overlap b/t men and women in MLC.
I took a gander at a BB forum that is for women going thru MLC themselves - Women in MLC - and was spooked by it.
Lots and lots of doublespeak and contradicting. A few posts by LBS pointed out that a lack of core values or ethics led to their WAWs wild, self-centered behavior/choices. To me, it just sounds like a major identity crisis.
What was chilling to me was how convinced these women were that their husbands were yesterday's news and that their husbands were set in their ways, with no chance for change. This, despite their own free reign with quite extreme changes in their own behavior. Also, almost a mockery over the LBS's attempts to keep a candle light (I see much more wisdom on non-pursuit, GAL, and mystery now!).
The other feature that struck me was the notably admission of depression or still not being happy despite D, affairs, changes, with no duh! moment leading to a realization that maybe they had made a mistake.
Finally, there was an epidemic quality to the MLC, with women noting that they had a friend doing s/t similar.
There is way more planning, focus, and discipline in DBing, folks, with the backbone of this approach being solution-focus therapy. I think I'll reread that portion of DB/DR again tonight.
