Your admissions of your contribution to the breakdown of your M and the loss of your W's self sound like I could have written them, only you are much more eloquent than I.
Likewise, your thoughts and feelings about your W and what she is going through in this post are how I feel about mine. That has been a constant struggle for me inn this ordeal; to not blame my W for what she is going through and taking this action and not blaming myself for the entire breakdown of the R/M.
I, too, need to work on being a stronger man, regardless of the outcome. This Deida book seems to be wellread amongst guys in this circle. Maybe I should pick it up for a read.
