Thanks for your thoughts. I will post in some detail on my weekend update tomorrow.
I just wanted to prod Gabe into discussing in a little more detail his view that: "she needs to wrestle with her guilt to grow up". I dont know about this. You know, she has so much guilt, she does not seem to have the energy to think about loss of the R or rebuilding or anything. But maybe what you are saying is that ones she starts to wrestle with her guilt she will being to see her role in the demise of the R and then start taking responsibility? Actually my W arrived at that point (or so I thought) sometime late last year. But since then she has continually regressed. Now I dont even know what she is feeling. Her moods change on a daily basis....
You advice on focusing on the R is right. I am doing my best in that regard.
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The 3 laws of DBing:
1. PMA is critical to DBing.
2. Since drop in WAW's PMA leads to drop in LBS's PMA and vice-versa detachment is critical.
3. Validate to raise WAW's PMA and GAL to raise LBS's.
