You can't control her happiness. Only she can. It's not going to be possible for you to take away every possiblity of guilt, and that will just wear you out and make you bitter.
I think that most of our WAS's are just out there looking for the greener side of the fence. And since the LBS represents the old side of the fence, we get blamed and feel guilty for everything on our side. They have to get to that other side before they will look back and see it's just the same. Or as most of us are trying to do here, make our side look better for when the WAS looks our way w/an open mind.
Sorry, UD, I don't think there is a way to stop the train. But you don't have to make the ride so pleasant that she doesn't want to get off.
Have I confused you w/my thoughts yet? I have to apologize, I am taking cold medication today! T
